301-Ladies, what to do when the Answer is No

You’ve finally mustered the courage to ask someone out, only to receive a clear and unambiguous NO. What now? How do you handle being rejected? Should you try again, move on, wait around for a change of heart, convince them of their error? Well, it depends on you, them, your situation, and their situation.
If you’re a gal who dared break with tradition to ask a guy out (more on this in a future post), you should probably move on. Guys are relatively simple to figure out. First of all, you’ve made him feel like the super stud of the century and verified his belief that no sane woman can resist him. If he likes you and wants to go out, he’ll say yes. It’s really that simple. It doesn’t matter what time of year it is, how busy he is at work, or how early he has to get up the next morning. If he thinks your cute, he will say YES, period.

Should you wait and try again? I’ll never advise anyone to wait around for someone who already rejected them. I’d rather see you go to Vegas and put your savings on red, since your odds of winning are much greater than hearing him say yes at a later date. Move on with your life and find someone who will say yes with gusto. If you’re lucky, the first guy will see you happy, realize the jewel that he passed up, crawl back to you and beg for another chance, and you’ll be able to tenderly look into his eyes as you smash his face with an imaginary sledge hammer and bask in the glory of your victory. More likely is that he’ll be happy that you found someone, because he was never interested in you anyway.

Are there exceptions to what I’m saying? Sure, there are some women who kept the fire burning for their illusive guy, and then one day, at a summer retreat in the country, standing side by side at the edge of a sparkling lake at sunset, he looked into her eyes and said, “I don’t know why I’ve never thought of this, but I would really like to go out with you.” Please don’t count on this happening to you. You’ll end up passing up opportunities for real relationships, and prevent yourself from seriously focusing on finding a soulmate.

If you’re a guy who’s gotten the NO, you probably should heed the same advice I just gave the gals. However, there are some differences and exceptions that might change your strategy. Stay tuned for my next post to hear what they are.

What are your thoughts on this topic?