301 – 5 Things You Should Not Reject a Guy Over

Some might say that women should always give guys a chance and refrain from rejecting them until they are 110% positive that the guy isn’t the right one for them. While there is definitely merit in giving chances and being sure before acting, there are also scenarios where it’s pretty clear that a guy deserves getting that rejection slip.

There are certain items on your I Do List that are “must haves” and dealbreakers, which you shouldn’t compromise on. Also, going out on too many bad dates will drain you of your positive energy, which is so vital to dating success.

But some ladies go a bit overboard in the rejection department and write off potential matches for reasons that could be seen as shortsighted and irrelevant to a happy relationship. Remember, your goal is to be in a committed, happy relationship that will lead to marriage.

So here are some things that you should NOT reject a guy over.

1. His Clothing
On two separate occasions women I tried to set up rejected the men I suggested because they didn’t like the way they dressed. They felt the men weren’t “sharp” or cool enough for them because, admittedly, they were clueless in the clothing department. I told these women that I thought they were making a big mistake by rejecting these men who were both highly intelligent and successful professionals and really nice guys.

I guess living in big cities filled with metro-sexual, GQ reading men on the cutting edge of fashion trends can distort the reality: lots of great men are ignorant when it comes to style. They either don’t know or don’t care, so they continue to dress like college frat boys or revenge of the nerds extras. I can totally see how this can be a turn off to women who put so much effort into looking their best. But here’s the reason why it shouldn’t matter: most men will gladly upgrade their wardrobe for the right woman.

Most men would love for a woman to take them shopping and help them pick out clothes. In fact, they probably wouldn’t mind if you went shopping on your own and just brought them back stuff to wear. It’s that simple. In most areas you need to assume that a person will not change and you must accept them as they are. Clothing style for men is not one of them. Once you’re in a relationship you can style your man. So don’t reject a guy just because he can’t figure out what to wear!

2. His Home Furnishing
This is pretty similar to the clothing item. Most guys do not have the sense of style necessary to furnish an apartment or home that doesn’t look like a college dorm room or an Austin Powers bachelor pad. That’s where you come in, if you end up living in the same house (ie married). Keep that in mind, and look past the design design disaster to see the real man.

3. His Profession
Making a living and supporting a family is important. Being able to maintain an acceptable, and realistic, standard of living is too. But how a man accomplishes that feat is not important. Don’t judge a man by how he makes his living. Your goal should be to find a man who will be a loving and caring husband and father. The letters after his name should be irrelevant to your decision. Financial fortunes go up and down. Integrity, respect, caring and sensitivity remain forever.

4. His Social “Coolness”
Some men aren’t the greatest when it comes to socializing. I’m not referring to a man who is socially awkward in an uncomfortable or creepy way. I’m just talking about a guy who isn’t the social butterfly you think you need. If you marry him you’ll have to be the social director and lead the way in that department. Big deal. Are you looking for a PR pro or a loving partner?

5. His Lack of Verbal Expressions of Affection
There was a great article in the Wall Street Journal that talks about how some men show their love and affection in their actions instead of in their words. I know you want your man to serenade you with verbal expressions of his undying affection, but would you settle for a guy who washes the dishes, takes out the garbage and buys you flowers on a regular basis? How about a guy who wakes up early on weekends to take care of the kids so you can sleep in? Actions speak louder than words. Go for the doer over the talker every time.

So next time you feel like writing off a guy before he even has a chance, remember these 5 points and consider giving him a shot.

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